Meg Jay在Ted英语演讲:为何三十世代并非新二十世代(中英)(4)

其次，我告诉Emma，人们高估了城市部落（Urban Tribes）。好友是载你去机场的绝佳人选，但二十世代群聚的对象在于志同道合的同龄族群，侷限于相识者、彼此知道的事、相似的思考模式、相仿的说话方式和相近的工作地点。新资本、

New things come from what are called our weak ties, our friends of friends of friends. So yes, half of twentysomethings are un- or under-employed. But half aren't, and weak ties are how you get yourself into that group. Half of new jobs are never posted, so reaching out to your neighbor's boss is how you get that un-posted job. It's not cheating. It's the science of how information spreads.

还有关于投机赚钱的问题，投机并非一种坏事，把投机当成一种坏事是思维上的问题，投机我认为是个大优点，但是前提是正确估算自己的投机能力以及事件投机可能造成的一些结果。和邻居朋友去拜访新朋友，当她们知道我老公工作职位以及我们的年岁后，都比较奇怪为何我老公“那么爱我”，连邻居朋友也跟着询问这个问题。侍中刘晔说：“公孙氏为汉代所用，因而世代承袭这一职位，其水路有大海相隔，陆路有群山阻挡，对外勾结胡人，遥远难以控制，而且世代为官，权势日久，现在如不诛杀，以后必生祸患。

Last but not least, Emma believed that you can't pick your family, but you can pick your friends. Now this was true for her growing up, but as a twentysomething, soon Emma would pick her family when she partnered with someone and created a family of her own. I told Emma the time to start picking your family is now. Now you may be thinking that 30 is actually a better time to settle down than 20, or even 25, and I agree with you.

只要稍稍动一下脑筋就会明白，在某一世代制定的法律，尽管往往经历好几代还继续生效，可是这些法律继续生效是因为得到活着的人的同意。当人们从家庭角度观察和考虑事物时，ta们应当能够看到男权不平等对家庭的影响，充分了解现行的婚姻制度，谨慎、负责任的选择配偶，避免和不适当的人组成家庭，这样才能保证家庭的安全和温暖，保证自己的孩子能够传承优秀的基因，让孩子能够在爱心中健康长大。假若你的方法得当触发了隐藏剧情，甚至你可以和若曦共结连理……你的每一步选择，决定了故事发展的脉络的完全不同。

But grabbing whoever you're living with or sleeping with when everyone on Facebook starts walking down the aisle is not progress. The best time to work on your marriage is before you have one, and that means being as intentional with love as you are with work. Picking your family is about consciously choosing who and what you want rather than just making it work or killing time with whoever happens to be choosing you.

但是当所有Facebook上的朋友开始步入礼堂时，套牢某个和你同居或上床的人，这并非完成某项进展。经营婚姻的最佳时机正是结婚前，这是指如同看待工作般用心看待爱情。家庭的选择是有意识的选择；选择你想要的人和生活，而非仅是达成目标或打发时间－与恰巧选择你的人。

So what happened to Emma? Well, we went through that address book, and she found an old roommate's cousin who worked at an art museum in another state. That weak tie helped her get a job there. That job offer gave her the reason to leave that live-in boyfriend.

Emma的后续情况如何？好，我们翻阅那本通讯录，她发现一位前室友的亲戚任职于他州的艺术博物馆，那个弱连结协助她在当地找到一份工作，那份工作给了她离开同居男友的理由。

Now, five years later, she's a special events planner for museums. She's married to a man she mindfully chose. She loves her new career, she loves her new family, and she sent me a card that said, "Now the emergency contact blanks don't seem big enough."

5年后的今天，她成了博物馆特殊活动规划者，她和一位用心选择的人结婚。她爱她的新职业，她爱她的新家庭。她寄给我一张卡片，上面写着：「现在紧急连络人一栏似乎不够大了。」

she pushed the door open and went into the room. there, in the middle, sat an old woman working at a spinning wheel. behind her was an enormous bed.。 after attending the college just for a few months, he couldn’t figure out how the college life would help him in the future except for imposing his working family enormous financial pressure。the performance should be somewhere between the hd6370m (renamed 5470)that features less shaders and the hd5650. amd claims that the performance difference to the hd 6370m is about 10-20% in games.。

Emma的故事使这件事听来轻而易举，但这就是我喜爱与二十世代共事的原因－帮助他们十分容易。二十世代就像刚离开洛杉几国际机场的飞机，准备前往西岸某处，起飞后，航线稍微偏移，即降落阿拉斯加或斐济的差别。同样地，在21或25岁，甚至29岁，一场有益的谈话、一次充分的休息、一场卓越的TED演讲，对未来几年、甚至几代都有极大影响。

So here's an idea worth spreading to every twentysomething you know. It's as simple as what I learned to say to Alex. It's what I now have the privilege of saying to twentysomethings like Emma every single day:

因此，这是一个值得分享给每一位你认识的二十世代的想法。这就像我于Alex的会谈中所领悟到的道理一样容易，这就是我现在有幸能时时给予像Emma一样的二十世代的忠告：

Thirty is not the new 20, so claim your adulthood, get some identity capital, use your weak ties, pick your family. Don't be defined by what you didn't know or didn't do. You're deciding your life right now. Thank you. (Applause)

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