Meg Jay在Ted英语演讲:为何三十世代并非新二十世代(中英)(2)

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We know that more than half of Americans are married or are living with or dating their future partner by 30. We know that the brain caps off its second and last growth spurt in your 20s as it rewires itself for adulthood, which means that whatever it is you want to change about yourself, now is the time to change it.

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We know that personality changes more during your 20s than at any other time in life, and we know that female fertility peaks at age 28, and things get tricky after age 35. So your 20s are the time to educate yourself about your body and your options.

我们知道性格于二十世代的变化胜于人生其他阶段；我们知道女性生育高峰期是28岁，35岁之后则每况愈下，因此二十世代正是了解自我身体状况及选择的最佳时机。

So when we think about child development, we all know that the first five years are a critical period for language and attachment in the brain. It's a time when your ordinary, day-to-day life has an inordinate impact on who you will become. But what we hear less about is that there's such a thing as adult development, and our 20s are that critical period of adult development.

因此，当我们谈到儿童发展，我们都知道，最初五年是大脑发展语言和情感依附的关键期，是日常生活对未来发展影响甚巨的阶段，但我们较少听说的是所谓的成人发展。二十世代正是成人发展关键期。

But this isn't what twentysomethings are hearing. Newspapers talk about the changing timetable of adulthood. Researchers call the 20s an extended adolescence. Journalists coin silly nicknames for twentysomethings like "twixters" and "kidults." It's true. As a culture, we have trivialized what is actually the defining decade of adulthood.

但二十世代不曾听过这一点，报纸谈论的总是成人阶段的改变。研究人员称二十世代为青春期的延续，新闻记者赋予二十世代一些愚蠢的称号，例如「啃老族」和「大孩子」，确实如此。文化使然，我们轻忽了成人阶段的决定性十年。

Leonard Bernstein said that to achieve great things, you need a plan and not quite enough time. Isn't that true? So what do you think happens when you pat a twentysomething on the head and you say, "You have 10 extra years to start your life"? Nothing happens. You have robbed that person of his urgency and ambition, and absolutely nothing happens.

伦纳德‧伯恩斯坦（着名指挥家）说，欲达成伟大成就，需要一个计画和不甚充裕的时间。确实如此吗？因此，当你拍着一位二十世代的头说：「你的人生还有十年才开始。」你认为会发生什么事？什么也不会发生。你剥夺了那个人的迫切感和雄心，不会发生任何结果。

love is a joke, but it doesn't mean to be unkind. god knows how hard it is. people who are born kind are often less interesting.。 even if everybody doesn't feel guilty about showing themselves naked当今世代的二大主题是， most people will have a bad conscience if they are really mean to someone。it doesn’t have to be that way .anytime you find the world waving a chair in your face , remember this :all you need to do is focus on one thing .you just need to get started .starting before you feel ready is one of the habits of successful people .if you have somewhere you want to go , something you want to accomplish , someone you want to become ….take immediate action .if you’re clear about where you want to go , the rest of the world will either help you get there or get out the way .。

日复一日地，聪明、有趣的二十世代，如同你们或你们的子女，前来我办公室说类似以下的话：「我知道我男友不适合我，但这段感情不能当真，只是打发时间罢了。」或是，「每个人都说，我只要在30岁前展开事业就没问题。」

But then it starts to sound like this: "My 20s are almost over, and I have nothing to show for myself. I had a better résumé the day after I graduated from college."

但之后他们开始这么说：「我的二十世代即将结束，却一事无成，我最好从大学毕业那天就开始投履历表。」

And then it starts to sound like this: "Dating in my 20s was like musical chairs. Everybody was running around and having fun, but then sometime around 30 it was like the music turned off and everybody started sitting down.

然后他们开始这么说：「二十世代的约会就像玩大风吹，大家四处游荡、乐在其中，但30岁左右音乐逐渐停止，大家开始就座。

I didn't want to be the only one left standing up, so sometimes I think I married my husband because he was the closest chair to me at 30."

我不想成为唯一站着的人，因此有时我觉得和丈夫结婚，只因为他是30岁时离我最近的椅子。」

Where are the twentysomethings here? Do not do that.

在座的二十世代？千万别这么做。

Okay, now that sounds a little flip, but make no mistake, the stakes are very high. When a lot has been pushed to your 30s, there is enormous thirtysomething pressure to jump-start a career, pick a city, partner up, and have two or three kids in a much shorter period of time. Many of these things are incompatible, and as research is just starting to show, simply harder and more stressful to do all at once in our 30s.

若有朋友向你提出借贷，情侣或者夫妻之间甜美如初，以防有损，要明白这是年运所带来的情况，精神显得格外疲累，慎防事将成功之际出现变数，可在车内配挂“淘运阁瑞麟开泰”挂饰，上月与好友之间的误会亦得以冰释，如身陷困逆境地而不失节操，今年不是个表白顺利的年份，决不能因为压力产生的负面情绪引发与客户和领导之间的口舌，更要警惕因致富发财。已有伴侣的天秤座朋友2015年甚多波折，很可能因为误会而分手，要多与伴侣沟通，化解误会。已婚或与伴侣相处多年者，2016年没有离离合合或大冲击，关系会淡如止水，亦会因为家庭问题而烦恼，与伴侣相处时间较少，引致小争执及误会频生，影响双方感情。