Meg Jay在Ted英语演讲:为何三十世代并非新二十世代(中英)

Meg Jay Ted英语演讲:

Meg Jay: Why 30 is not the new 20

Meg Jay 谈为何三十世代并非新二十世代 （中英）

When I was in my 20s, I saw my very first psychotherapy client. I was a Ph.D. student in clinical psychology at Berkeley. She was a 26-year-old woman named Alex. Now Alex walked into her first session wearing jeans and a big slouchy top, and she dropped onto the couch in my office and kicked off her flats and told me she was there to talk about guy problems. Now when I heard this, I was so relieved. My classmate got an arsonist for her first client. (Laughter) And I got a twentysomething who wanted to talk about boys. This I thought I could handle.

我20多岁时，遇见我第一位心理治疗病患。我当时是柏克莱大学临床心理学博士生，她是名叫Alex的26岁女子。第一次会谈时，Alex穿着牛仔裤和宽大上衣，一屁股坐在我办公室的沙发上，踢掉她的平底鞋，告诉我她是来谈男性问题的。听见这句话时，我松了一口气；我同学的第一位病人是纵火犯（笑声），我的则是一位想谈男性的二十多岁女子。我以为我能搞定这件事。

But I didn't handle it. With the funny stories that Alex would bring to session, it was easy for me just to nod my head while we kicked the can down the road. "Thirty's the new 20," Alex would say, and as far as I could tell, she was right. Work happened later, marriage happened later, kids happened later, even death happened later. Twentysomethings like Alex and I had nothing but time.

我点头说嗯，然后她说，我了解刘洋，他酒醒之后肯定是后悔了，但是他爱面子，不会来跟我道歉的，我必须给他一个台阶下。式方的学事会就心用苦良的师老,中集不就力精课听,趣兴的课听生学起不引,知发激,势定维思生学免避能就,路思学教换变常经。不否认两岸在1992年会谈的事实，不承认会谈之后，两岸用传真机确认的九二共识的内涵，不拒绝就是民进党一直期待有其他共识出来。

But before long, my supervisor pushed me to push Alex about her love life. I pushed back.

但不久后，指导教授催促我，督促Alex积极面对爱情生活，我不以为然。

“she's going with seamus,” said parvati, and the pair of them giggled harder than ever.。 she’s no longer a prisoner,” ms. turner said. “she’s the one taking charge and doing her own thing, which is very exciting.” “it’s about her going to people and trying to get them to listen to her, and showing them that she’s not just a stupid young girl anymore.”。“she's part veela,” said harry. “you were right - her grandmother was one. it wasn't your fault, i bet you just walked past when she was turning on the old charm for diggory and got a blast of it - but she was wasting her time. he's going with cho chang.”。

我说，「没错，她有固定约会对象，她和一个蠢蛋上床，但不代表她会和那个家伙结婚。」

And then my supervisor said, "Not yet, but she might marry the next one. Besides, the best time to work on Alex's marriage is before she has one."

于是指导教授说，「目前是如此，但或许她会和下一个对象结婚。此外，让Alex经营婚姻的最佳时机，就是在她结婚前。」

That's what psychologists call an "Aha!" moment. That was the moment I realized, 30 is not the new 20.

这就是心理学家所谓的「啊哈！」时刻。那一刻，我领悟到三十世代并非新二十世代。

“company policy was that everyone flew coach. and there was bill, sitting in coach, in a middle seat. it didn’t matter to him。 would have walked along the road, to challenge, but too many people crossing, crowded all crowded don't go up, there is no way, only on the cable car, we will rest for a while, continue to the cable car, we went to the cable car, after leaving the ground, was nervous mother didn't open my eyes, until you go back to the ground。my family was rather poor when i was in my childhood. we didn't have our own house and had to live in a shabby， small room rented from my father's factory. the room was so small that there was little space for people to walk. i didn't have my own bed and had to sleep with my parents. this is terrible both for my parents and me.。

没错，人们比以往更晚成家立业，但不代表二十世代是Alex的发展停滞期，而是Alex的最佳发展时机，我们却坐视这段时光白白流逝。

That was when I realized that this sort of benign neglect was a real problem, and it had real consequences, not just for Alex and her love life but for the careers and the families and the futures of twenty somethings everywhere.

此时我才明白，所谓善意的忽视确实是个问题，将造成严重后果。不仅对Alex和她的爱情生活来说如此，对所有二十世代的事业、家庭和未来亦然。

There are 50 million twenty somethings in the United States right now. We're talking about 15 percent of the population, or 100 percent if you consider that no one's getting through adulthood without going through their 20s first.

目前美国有五千万名二十世代人口，大约占总人口的15%，或者说100%，如果考虑到任何迈入成年期的人都经历过二十世代。

9、when you have insomnia, you're never really asleep and you're never really awake.。8、when you have insomnia, you're never really asleep and you're never really awake.。ano matter how plain and simple you are, there's someone who will surely look at you as if you're the most perfect creature ever existed no matter how plain and simple you are, there's someone who will surely look at you as if you're the most perfect creature ever existed [translate]。

现场的二十世代请举手，我非常希望在现场见到二十世代听众。太好了！你们都棒极了。如果你和二十世代共事、如果你的恋人是二十世代、如果你关心二十世代，我想看到－好，棒极了！二十世代十分重要。

So I specialize in twenty somethings because I believe that every single one of those 50 million twenty somethings deserves to know what psychologists, sociologists, neurologists and fertility specialists already know: that claiming your 20s is one of the simplest, yet most transformative, things you can do for work, for love, for your happiness, maybe even for the world.

因此我专门研究二十世代，因为我认为这五千万名二十世代中的每一位，都该知道心理学家、社会学家、神经学家及生育专家都知道的事：二十世代是最单纯、但最具可塑性的阶段，对工作、爱情和幸福来说，也许甚至对全世界来说

This is not my opinion. These are the facts. We know that 80 percent of life's most defining moments take place by age 35. That means that eight out of 10 of the decisions and experiences and "Aha!" moments that make your life what it is will have happened by your mid-30s. People who are over 40, don't panic. This crowd is going to be fine, I think. We know that the first 10 years of a career has an exponential impact on how much money you're going to earn.